Could You Be Running From Sadness?
Do you drink too much? Are you addicted to drama? Are you perpetually over-scheduled? Is a vacation always around the corner? Do you shop too much?
Why Denying Sadness Doesn't Create Happiness
When we're happy, we're light. Things are easier. Life flows. Everyone wants to feel that, so it's quite common for us to avoid sadness. The problem is, that doesn't really help us to be happier because it's not real.
When we deny our feelings, we get out of alignment.
Something inside us rebels.
It may be imperceptible - especially if you are used to ignoring your body and emotions - but more important than feeling good is the inner yearning for authenticity. This can lead to worse symptoms and a deepening of the sadness.
Sometimes we have judgments about happiness. We might think that we have to be happy in order for people to like us.
While it's true that most people don't want to be around someone who is perpetually a downer, our true friends will stick through a wobble with us. Having a rough moment doesn't define who you are. In fact, it can make you healthier and a better friend.
How Feeling Sadness Makes You Healthier
What Healthy Sadness Looks Like
One reason that people don't do sadness is that they don't know how. They don't have healthy role models. Here are some tips to help with that.
How to Tell the Difference Between Depression and Sadness
Sadness is an emotion. Emotions come and go. They are linked to specific events and do not last. Sadness is normal and healthy.
Depression is a mood. Moods are fairly stable, do not shift quickly. Moods are generalized. They are not related to a specific event and persist in most situations. Depression is a state of dis-ease and may require treatment.