To be a rock star in the game of life, you need to know:
6 Reasons We Don't Ask for Help - And Why We Need to Let That Go
We are on Day 4 of my "365 Days of Letting Go" challenge. If you'd like to let go of the baggage that is weighing you down, join us.
Commit and make small changes every day.
At the end of a year, you will be You2.0!
Everything We Do Has a Positive Purpose
All behavior is meant to help us meet our needs. But sometimes our actions cost us more than they benefit us.
Let's look at the 6 reasons we don't ask for help.
Fear of Judgment
If I don't show you my weaknesses, you won't know they are there. So, you can't judge me.
I Don't Know How
If I wasn't nurtured or mentored as a child, I learned to be self-sufficient. I don't know how to ask for help.
It's Easier to Do It Myself
It may be harder to explain what I need, and accept help than it is to ask someone for help.
I Like Control
If you get involved in my projects, your energy and ideas will be in my work. I'd rather be in full control. It makes me feel safe.
If I ask for help, it's like admitting I can't do it or that I'm a mess. I'd rather crawl over broken glass than to be seen as weak to other people.
I Might Fall Apart
If I take a break, I might fall apart. My stress is all that's keeping me together.
These Are All Just Stories!
Change Your Story and You'll Change Your Life
Humans are social creatures. We all need each other. No one can provide all the goods, services, social, physical, emotional, or spiritual things that we need.
We all need help.
Not being able to ask for help makes you an island. And that's a really lonely way to live.
So consider letting that go.