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Why You Say Yes When You Mean No And How to Stop
Unappreciated? Resentful? Over Committed? Does that sound familiar? That’s a gigantic clue that you are saying yes when you mean no. Someone asks for a favor or you see someone in need, and you step right up to help out and save the day. It feels good for a moment, then reality sets in and
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How to Show Up and Stop Hiding Your True Self
What Does Hiding Look Like People hide to stay safe. It’s typically shame driven and comes from the deep fear that if others see who we really are, they won’t like us and will abandon us. The truth is, it hurts us because not only do others not get to know us, we don’t get
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Are You Sacrificing Sleep For More Time For Yourself?
“There’s Not Enough Time in the Day” How often do you say this? Do you make “more” time for cleaning, self-care, cooking, leisure, and social time by skimping on sleep? Maybe it’s time to let that go. There are many studies that look at the high cost of sleep deprivation. Let’s look at the statistics.
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Stop Wasting Your Time Trying to Fix People
Why Fixing People is a Waste of Time We’re all taught to be kind and help others. It makes us feel good. It is a way to contribute to society, so why is fixing people a bad thing? The answer lies in the line between helping and fixing. We help people we see as equals
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What You Didn’t Know About Yelling But Should
“But he only listens when I yell” This is what I hear from all my clients who admit to an angry communication issue. It’s not true, and it’s not a reason to justify screaming. Yelling Inhibits Trust and Understanding Yelling is a power play to state “I am mightier than you.” It’s a way of
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Why You Should Let Go of Being a Good Person
We teach our children to “be good,” but is that a great idea? Here are two strong arguments against it It’s Judgmental Life is complicated. Stealing to feed your family isn’t the same as stealing to feed your drug habit. Lying to save someone’s life isn’t the same as lying to get away with being
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Why You Need to Stop Sending Dick Pics
Does This Really Need to Be Said? I guess it does because today I got a dick pic. It’s Sexual Harassment Yep. Receiving unwanted nudity is sexual harassment. It’s illegal. It’s A Boundary Violation Sending something to someone who didn’t ask for it is a clear boundary violation. It’s Potentially Traumatizing If you send a
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Am I Too Critical?
10 Signs That You’re Too Critical Relationship expert, John Gottman, identifies criticism as one of the things that cause relationships to fail. I once knew someone who complained, criticized, and highlighted the negativity in every situation. Whew! What a downer! Although she had some lovely qualities, they weren’t enough to overcome her negativity, and I
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How to Love Criticism
Criticism sucks AND Criticism is a Tool For Becoming Your Best Self I am not going to pretend that hearing criticism doesn’t suck. Nobody wants to find out that they are the worst performer, their partner doesn’t like their meatloaf, or that their frenemies are laughing at their favorite outfit. Criticism is bad. It’s so
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9 Astonishing Reasons Why We Don’t Say “Yes” To What We Want
If life is full of contradictions and excuses Maybe You’re Not Saying Yes to What You Want You say you’re an artist, but you don’t make any art.You dream of a life partner, but you don’t even go out on dates.You long for a different job, but you have a lot of reasons why you
