People Pleasing: Why We Do It and How to Stop
"I Just Want to Be Nice"
Many people pleasers think that they do what they do because they want to be nice. They think they are helping. People please is a trauma response. It's called fawning.
We do it to stay safe, avoid criticism, fit in, and feel good about ourselves. It's a way to get validation that we're okay.
Unfortunately, it leads to low self-esteem, resentment, being walked on, and being left out - the very things we're trying to avoid!
How to Stop People Pleasing
Knowing why you are people pleasing is important to breaking the cycle. If you know your underlying emotional needs, you can meet them in a healthier way. Here are some tips!
Helping others and being kind is what makes the world go around. We all need each other and contribute to what our society looks like.
But don't forget that your first responsibility is to yourself. Always serve from a full heart. You're best to others when you show up honestly and authentically. If you're not there, take care of yourself first.