Why “Compromise” Is a Bad Word

Avoid this like the plague!

If you grew up like me, you were taught to compromise. This is a horrible idea! Let me tell you why!

The word "compromise" is a verb that means to arrive at a settlement by each side making concessions. That's a lose/lose proposition! 

Neither side gets what they want! Why would anyone want that? 

Why not go for the win/win? If both parties get what they want, they are each more likely to uphold their end of the bargain.

Think about it. Compromise is why many separated parents end up back in court. While their arrangement may seem fair on paper, it may not feel good inside. Especially if neither of them got what they wanted.

So the win/win might sound better, but how does one achieve this? 

I have counseled couples through the years who were proud of their ability to compromise. I used to do it too. Now I know better.

It's much better to create a life that you love rather than the one you think is fair. 

Fair can suck. Dare to live happily.