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How to Be a Safe Person For Others To Be Around
How To Be a Safe Person The number one emotional need for all human beings is safety. Some of us think of it constantly and do things to create it. Others of us only think about it when safety is threatened. So if you want to have great relationships, it’s great to know how to
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Why You Need to Stop Watching the News NOW!
Why You Need to Stop Watching the News NOW! studies have shown that people in high income countries live in the safest time in recorded history. And yet, we are more stressed out than ever. We have more stress related conditions than ever. Why? What’s going on? It’s due in large part to the easy
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Want to Heal Trauma? Cultivate Consistency
Take Charge of Your Healing We can’t change the things that have happened to us, but we can grow beyond them and heal. The top hack to heal trauma is to cultivate consistency. When something traumatic happens, it’s like the rug is pulled out from under us. We respond by getting stuck in the fear
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Why Money Won’t Bring You Happiness
Why Money Won’t Bring You Happiness My recent return to social media has brought me face to face with news from an outside world that I had forgotten. I endure a daily onslaught of people talking about what is apparently the most important topics on the American mind – making money, sex, beauty, and politics.
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Ready For a Life Make Over?
Ready For a Life Make Over? You know those make over shows where women get a new hair cut and updated clothes because someone thinks they need a polish? Or those home renovation shows where a dated house gets paint, modern fixtures, and upgrades? Why don’t we do that for our lives? Are you ready
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Why Do We Engage in Negativity? (And What To Do About It)
Why Do We Engage in Negativity? I recently returned to social media by opening a Twitter account and was immediately assaulted with negativity. I wondered, “Why do we engage in negativity?” What I found out was actually no surprise. Humans have a negativity bias. We notice and remember things we don’t like or that hurt more
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How Manage Holiday Expectations
How to Manage Holiday Expectations Did you know that the template for Christmas was created by Charles Dickens, Courier and Ives, and Christmas songs and stories? Yep, it’s all manufactured. While most of them were created to give us feelings of joy and cheer, they also set this expectation that we all have wonderful, warm
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Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations Lots of coaches will tell you to dream big and “Go big, or go home.” While optimism is a great practice that helps people achieve and live more satisfying lives, nothing kills happiness faster than unrealistic expectations. What’s the difference between optimism and unrealistic expectations? Optimism is a generally positive
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When You Wish Your Parents Were Different
When You Wish Your Parents Were Different The approaching holidays can bring up thoughts like: I’m supposed to be with my family now; We’re supposed to be happy; This is supposed to be a good time; Why don’t I feel loved? When the reality doesn’t align with the expectation, this can lead to wishing that
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Letting Go of The Need for Certainty Before You Act
Letting Go of the Need for Certainty Before You Act Do you have a need for certainty before you act? This often looks like projecting several movements ahead, and eliminating all possibilities except the one you desire. How often does that happen? Not often, right? We can’t eliminate all possibility of something undesirable happening because