Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Lots of coaches will tell you to dream big and "Go big, or go home." While optimism is a great practice that helps people achieve and live more satisfying lives, nothing kills happiness faster than unrealistic expectations.
What's the difference between optimism and unrealistic expectations?
Optimism is a generally positive outlook that come from how you show up in the world. For example, you have good problem solving skills, perseverance, and emotional intelligence. You are able to make the most of opportunities because you use these skills.
Unrealistic expectations are more about things outside of yourself. You expect things outside of you to work magic in your favor, and this is not how nature works.
Examples of Unrealistic Expectations That Will Ruin Your Life
How to Tell If You're Expectations Are Unrealistic
These are just some of the most common unrealistic expectations that people carry. Here are two tell tale signs that other expectations are unrealistic:
The bar you set for yourself is very high. You have to get things perfect. You stress out over your efforts. When things don't work out, you get very upset. You can't compromise on your vision.
You put obligations and expectations on others that they aren't aware of, don't agree to, or can't meet, then get upset when they "let you down."
Since you are creating this, it's very easy to let it go.
If you see other common ways that people practice unrealistic expectations, share with us in the comments.