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How to Relax When You Don’t Know How
How to Relax When You Don’t Know How Don’t know how to relax? You’re not alone. Most of us grew up hearing things like “Idle hands are the devil’s workshop” and “Work now, play later” and “If you want to succeed, you have to work hard.” That can create a mindset of never letting your
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How to Be a Safe Person For Others To Be Around
How To Be a Safe Person The number one emotional need for all human beings is safety. Some of us think of it constantly and do things to create it. Others of us only think about it when safety is threatened. So if you want to have great relationships, it’s great to know how to
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Want to Heal Trauma? Cultivate Consistency
Take Charge of Your Healing We can’t change the things that have happened to us, but we can grow beyond them and heal. The top hack to heal trauma is to cultivate consistency. When something traumatic happens, it’s like the rug is pulled out from under us. We respond by getting stuck in the fear
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Why Money Won’t Bring You Happiness
Why Money Won’t Bring You Happiness My recent return to social media has brought me face to face with news from an outside world that I had forgotten. I endure a daily onslaught of people talking about what is apparently the most important topics on the American mind – making money, sex, beauty, and politics.
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Why Do We Engage in Negativity? (And What To Do About It)
Why Do We Engage in Negativity? I recently returned to social media by opening a Twitter account and was immediately assaulted with negativity. I wondered, “Why do we engage in negativity?” What I found out was actually no surprise. Humans have a negativity bias. We notice and remember things we don’t like or that hurt more
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How The Need to Know Is Blocking Your Growth
Do You Have the “Need To Know” Itis? I call the act of blocking forward movement with too many questions the “Need to Know” Itis. Let’s take a look at this Buddhist story to see what I mean. The Poisoned Arrow A man is wounded by a poisoned arrow. His family calls for a doctor,
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Are You Standing In The Way of Your Healing?
Are You Standing in the Way of Your Healing? I’ve spent my career helping people who are “hard-to-help.” Are you one of them? Are you standing in the way of your healing? You Are In Charge of Holding On and Letting Go Every healer can only offer remedies. The healing part is up to you.
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Why Some People Find Healing a Challenge
Are You Blocking Your Success? It’s funny because I’ve been in the trauma treatment business over twenty years. As far back as when I was an intern, I was dumped on and given the “hard-to-help,” so called “treatment resistant” clients, but those weren’t the clients who had a hard time changing. No, they just weren’t
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Are You Seeing Your Parents Realistically?
Growing Up Means Realizing Your Parents Are Flawed When working with people to help them let go of childhood issues, it is common to get new insight that changes the way we see our parents. We have to incorporate this new information in order to move forward. When that proves challenging, it can be a
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The Astonishing Impact of Staying in Your Comfort Zone
we all look forward to putting our feet up In The West, We All Look Forward to Retirement When We Can Coast If an all-knowing psychic said that a year from now, life would look exactly like it does now, most of us would be horrified. The Cost of Comfort Most of us say we
