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Are You Going to Choose Love or Fear?
Love or Fear? When it comes down to it, everything boils down to two choices in life: love or fear. The Pathway of Fear Fear is a normal, healthy emotion that exists to keep us alive. It is designed to be a very short-term state to help us deal with immediate danger. Our thinking brain…
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4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Follow a Program
4 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Follow a Program It’s the end of the year and my email and social media feed is full of people with offers to join their programs. Everybody’s got a program for something. If you’re being bombarded too, let me give you six reasons why you shouldn’t follow a program. What’s…
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What You Should Know If You Are Thinking About Killing Yourself
Thinking About Killing Yourself? It’s that time of year when sadness, loneliness, and isolation can become overwhelming for some people. They just want it to end, and suicide seems like a the easiest way out. If this is you, please read on and find out what you need to know if you are thinking about…
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Why You Should Forget About Growth
Forget About Growth? What? Forget about growth? What? That’s sacrilege! If you grew up with any role model in your life who was the least bit motivated, you learned how to focus on growth. Every coach talks about it. There are a million motivational quotes about growth. So what’s wrong with growth? Growth Is Only…
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Letting Go of the Best-of-the-Best (BOTB) Lifestyle
Do You Have a Best-of-the-Best (BOTB) Lifestyle? Did you know that Charles Dickens and advertising created the modern Christmas? Yep. In Dickens’ day, Christmas was a minor holiday much like Easter today. Some people celebrated and got the day off, but it wasn’t a culture wide phenomenon with decorations everywhere, lots of parties, and lots…
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Why Addiction Isn’t About Willpower or Character
Why Addiction Isn’t About Willpower or Character The recent studies about addiction are stunning! I have to share. Now, maybe you’ve heard about the “rat park” study that came out in 1978? Canadian psychologist Bruce K. Alexander hypothesized that addiction was an environmental issue, not a psychological one. He set out to prove it by…
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Do More of What You Love
Do More of What You Love Happy new year! For animists like me, the winter solstice is new year’s eve. Today marks the beginning of the new year, and like many people, I gave some thought to what I want 2023 to look like. Rather than focusing on what I don’t want or what I…
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Do You Have the Guts To Do An End-of-the-Year Self-Evaluation?
End-of-the-Year Self-Evaluation? If your mother were rating your performance as a human being, how would you do? Would your scores change if it were done by your child? How about your romantic partner? Best friend? What criteria would they find important? How about you? How would you do in an end-of-the-year self-evaluation? Would you be…
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Is It Too Late to Beat December Burn Out?
Is It Too Late to Beat December Burn Out? We’re a week away from Christmas and two weeks away from New Years. Is it too late to beat December burn out? If you’ve got juices left, hang on. It’s not too late to make some changes. I’ll give you some tips on how to get…
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Taking the Stigma Out of the Estranged Family
It’s Time We Talked About the Estranged Family It’s time we talked about the estranged family. Over 43% of people have been estranged from a family member at some point in their lives. In the pre-covid days, 25% of Americans were estranged from their family. It’s probably even higher now due to the stresses brought…
