If you aren’t in a happy relationship, and want to be, the answer is yes!

Are You Holding Yourself Back From Love?

Read on, and I will share the most common unconscious beliefs that limit love.

But before we begin, let’s talk about limiting beliefs.

What Are Limiting Beliefs?

Limiting beliefs are also called maladaptive programs, unconscious programs, or disempowering beliefs. All these things refer to ways of thinking that are often outside our conscious awareness that keep us stuck.

You know you are limiting love when you want X and get Y.

Here are some common examples

You say you are open to a relationship, but you attract partners who don’t want to commit.Your intention is to socialize and meet new people, but you are on the couch watching tv night after night.Affirmations play at night to “program” you to change the way you think and feel.You rely on “experts” who tell you how to change the outside to get what you want.Guys/girls flirt with your friends, but not you.

The bottom line is, if you are putting forth worthwhile effort and not getting the results you want, there is a block in place.

Let’s Look at Common Beliefs That Limit Love

#1

I can’t have what I want

Don’t dumb down your list because you think it’s not available! Even if what you want is only 5% of the population, someone checks that box. Someone is going to pair up with that person. It might as well be you! If you believe it, you can achieve it.

#2

Everybody cheats

Lots of people cheat. Ultimately, it may even be true of the love of your life. It’s not a reason to sit the game out. Play it until it’s over. Rethink your strategy, and then play again.

#3

I’m hopeless at love

It’s about skills! If you’ve been here for a while, you know that I am a big believer in raising your skills. Everything can be learned and improved upon. Get some skills.

#4

I’m not ___ enough

What you believe, you achieve. So, if you want love, you’re going to have to let that belief go. Fortunately, there is help with that. Contact me and let’s get going!

#5

They always leave

Change your bar for success. If the bar for a successful relationship is to live happily ever after, we’re all failures. It doesn’t exist. All relationships end because that’s life. Things end  in death if nothing else. It’s okay to leave a relationship that isn’t working. It makes space for one that will work.

#6

Love will consume me

If you lose yourself in a relationship, you’re doing it wrong. You’re giving too much. In a healthy relationship, you and your partner retain authenticity. You don’t have to contort or compromise to please anyone.

#7

Love hurts

There is no way to love without hurting.  Pick the ones worth hurting for and love anyway. Nothing of value is birthed without pain.

#8

No one person can satisfy me

It’s not someone else’s job to make you happy.  If that’s your criteria, you’re setting the relationship up to fail. Enjoy your partner for what s/he brings to the table, and make yourself happy.

Life’s Hard. Love Makes It Worth It

If you are limiting love, challenge yourself. Enlarge your capacity to love. Take a chance. Tweak as you go.

Each time your heart breaks, it can either grow or shrink. Let it blossom until it’s a big as the sun!