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30 Day “Choose Love”Challenge
From the new moon in Virgo to the new moon in Libra (Sept 14 to Oct 14, 2023), I am embarking on a “Choose Love” challenge. It’s a resolution to consciously embrace the path of love over fear for a month. I invite you to join me? Why Choose Love? Every day I work in…
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When You Can’t Do It Anymore
We all have that moment when we feel we can’t do it anymore. We realize that something in our lives is an overwhelming and total wreck. Maybe we’re a hoarder. We always knew it, but now it’s in our face. We feel the weight of it, how it is sapping the life from us, and…
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How to Get Along With Me
How to Get Along With Me I ran across this hilarious (and also down-to-earth and common sense) article by Carol Roth called “How to Get Along With Me.” It covers some business dos and don’ts that can help people work better together. There are a lot of contexts where it helps to have hints on how…
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How to Be a Safe Person For Others To Be Around
How To Be a Safe Person The number one emotional need for all human beings is safety. Some of us think of it constantly and do things to create it. Others of us only think about it when safety is threatened. So if you want to have great relationships, it’s great to know how to…
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Why “Compromise” Is a Bad Word
Avoid this like the plague! Why “Compromise” Is a Bad Word If you grew up like me, you were taught to compromise. This is a horrible idea! Let me tell you why! Compromise Is a Lose/Lose The word “compromise” is a verb that means to arrive at a settlement by each side making concessions. That’s…
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How Manage Holiday Expectations
How to Manage Holiday Expectations Did you know that the template for Christmas was created by Charles Dickens, Courier and Ives, and Christmas songs and stories? Yep, it’s all manufactured. While most of them were created to give us feelings of joy and cheer, they also set this expectation that we all have wonderful, warm…
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Are You Sexually Harassing Someone? Here’s 11 Signs
Are You Sexually Harassing Someone? I recently read an article where Quentin Tarrantino lamented not taking the sexual harassment allegations against collaborator, Harvey Weinstein, more seriously. Tarrantino basically said that he knew, but didn’t want to deal with it because it was low level stuff (my interpretation). This tells me that we still don’t know…
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When You Wish Your Parents Were Different
When You Wish Your Parents Were Different The approaching holidays can bring up thoughts like: I’m supposed to be with my family now; We’re supposed to be happy; This is supposed to be a good time; Why don’t I feel loved? When the reality doesn’t align with the expectation, this can lead to wishing that…
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Letting Go of Social Isolation
Letting Go of Social Isolation Lots of people socialize less when the weather cools. We stay inside where we are snuggly warm. With the covid headlines talking about the reimplementation of mask wearing and requiring vaccines, even more people are staying away from social gatherings. While staying safe, warm, and comfortable is good, too much…
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Five Easy Changes To Create Connection
Five Easy Changes to Create Connection By far the most common complaint I hear among people in counseling is the lack of connection. Loneliness is epidemic and nobody seems to know how to do anything about it. You see, it’s not about how many friends you have on social media or how often you go…
