Are You "too available?"
What Message Are You Sending By Being Too Available?
Believe it or not, being too available can work against you. Here's what messages you could be sending.
I have no life
People with interesting lives are far more attractive than those with nothing going on. If you are always available, you can look boring.
You are more important than me
We want people we care about and serve to feel important. We want to help, but when you drop everything whenever they reach out, you send the message that they are more important than you are. This could lead to them taking you for granted and making requests that leave you feeling taken for granted.
I have no boundaries
Everybody needs to sleep, work, chill, and do nothing. If you give away all your time to whomever asks for it, you won't have it for yourself. Worse, you create an open door where people can, and will, treat you however they want. It's far better to say no when you mean no. It creates healthier, more satisfying, and meaningful relationships.
What To Do Instead?
I know that being available can feel like you're being kind, neighborly, and a good human.
All relationships are a balance of me and we. The more we give to others, the less we have for and of ourselves. We lose independence to gain community. Be mindful of where you draw the line so you don't lose yourself in the process.