Let Go of Unsatisfying Relationships
What’s the difference between a transactional relationship and a reciprocal one? In both, the participants give something to each other. The two major differences are relationship and intent.
Some features of the transactional relationship are:
Reciprocal relationship also involve giving and taking, but the giving comes from a place of love and care because the parties feel a sense of belonging to each other.
There is no expectation of getting just because they give, and there is no score keeping. Giving is a joy.
This is typically warmly received and helps to deepen the connection between people.
Humans have a psychological urge to do good to those who show us kindness. When that is absent, it’s hard to have any attachment or affiliation with that person because it feels abusive and distant.
If you are feeling lonely, this may be why. Your relationships may be more transactional than relational.
Here are some tips to move away from transactional relationships
Reciprocity is often spiritually motivated. It shows that we understand that we’re all a part of the Earth family, and what happens to one, happens to all. When one gives, many benefit.
So, it’s better when we all share what we can. It helps all creatures to feel loved, cared for, and live with a sense of belonging.
The transactional relationship focuses on getting stuff. The reciprocal relationship focuses on having meaningful connections.
So, which kind of relationship do you prefer?