Money, laziness, and not listening are the top topics to argue about. Enduring that much complaining in a day would make anyone tune out. So why do we do it?
Understand the Two Big Reasons Why We Argue
Don't Have Healthy Conflict Resolution Skills
If you don't know how to resolve conflict, you probably either avoid it or come on too strong.
This can wreak havoc on a relationship because problems never get solved.
Or perhaps they do, but they get there at the expense of your self-esteem and emotional well-being.
Everyone can learn better communication skills. It's never too late to start.
The Need to Be Right
Nobody is right all the time. When you force the issue, you're not listening to the other side and dominating your partner.
Neither of those things feels very loving, so it will ultimately cost you love points.
People often say their love just faded away, but it doesn't. It drains slowly from a lack of care.
And if you are right most of the time, you don't have to insist upon it or make the other person wrong.
Want To Let Go of Arguing?
My "Let It Go Now" community follows the "Ready. Release. Renew" path.
You don't jump out of a plane without some training first, right? We don't let go right away either. We learn some skills to do what we can to assure that we're making a good call and will land on our feet, then we jump.
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