Why External Validation Is Never Enough
Do You Like Me? Yes or No
Remember when we were little kids and someone would slip you a note in school that read, "Do you like me?" and there would be a box to check yes or no?
It was innocent and cute to get that kind of approval back then, but if you are still seeking external validation as an adult, that might be something to work towards letting go of.
Let's Look at 2 Big Reasons Why External Validation is Never Enough
You Always Want More
Getting praise, likes, compliments, and other forms of approval is like a drug. It makes you high for a little while and then you need more.
No matter how much you get, no matter how great the achievement that they acknowledge, you can't coast on it for the rest of your life. It's like a bottomless pit that you have to continuously feed.
And that can get really taxing for those whom you rely on to fill you up.
The Approval That You Really Seek Is Your Own
The reason why we seek outside approval is that we doubt our own worth. We either tear ourselves down or don't believe anyone would like us, think we're beautiful, have something to offer.
Since this is our inner belief, we need someone we trust more to contradict that. This is both why there is never enough to fill you up and why it doesn't last.
How To Fill Yourself Up
If you look at people who have high self-esteem, you will notice that they share certain habits and characteristics.
I'm going to suggest that you "act as if" you are one of them and fake it until you make it. When you begin to think and act like someone who loves himself, love may follow.
If it doesn't, there may be some emotional blocks that need to be removed first. If I can help with that, please reach out. In the meantime, here are some tips:
Tips For Acting As If You're Worthy
As you can see, nothing here is rocket science, but you might be amazed at how many of these things that people who seek external validation don't do. Changing a few things can make a huge difference in how you feel about yourself.
Pay attention to how you feel as you do these things. The process will give you lots of feedback that can help you continue your growth.
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