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When You Wish Your Parents Were Different
When You Wish Your Parents Were Different The approaching holidays can bring up thoughts like: I’m supposed to be with my family now; We’re supposed to be happy; This is supposed to be a good time; Why don’t I feel loved? When the reality doesn’t align with the expectation, this can lead to wishing that…
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Letting Go of The Need for Certainty Before You Act
Letting Go of the Need for Certainty Before You Act Do you have a need for certainty before you act? This often looks like projecting several movements ahead, and eliminating all possibilities except the one you desire. How often does that happen? Not often, right? We can’t eliminate all possibility of something undesirable happening because…
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Letting Go of Social Isolation
Letting Go of Social Isolation Lots of people socialize less when the weather cools. We stay inside where we are snuggly warm. With the covid headlines talking about the reimplementation of mask wearing and requiring vaccines, even more people are staying away from social gatherings. While staying safe, warm, and comfortable is good, too much…
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Five Easy Changes To Create Connection
Five Easy Changes to Create Connection By far the most common complaint I hear among people in counseling is the lack of connection. Loneliness is epidemic and nobody seems to know how to do anything about it. You see, it’s not about how many friends you have on social media or how often you go…
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Want a Committed Relationship? Let Go of Situationships.
Want a Committed Relationship? Let Go of Situationships. The likelihood of going from a situationship to a committed relationship isn’t great. If you want a committed relationship, let go of situationships. It’s really that easy. What’s a Situationship? A situationship is a sexual relationship that doesn’t have a defined label. It’s casual. There are no…
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How to Be Okay When You’ve Grown Apart from Your BFF
How to Be Okay When You’ve Grown Apart from Your BFF I love my friends. I still keep in touch with many of them from as far back as elementary school. In my mind, our shared childhood is a treasure trove of stories that only we know, so it’s sacred. That makes it sad to…
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Persistence: What I’m Learning By Letting Go
Learning Persistence Eighty-nine days ago, I began a personal challenge to do 365 days of letting go. One of the things that I am learning is persistence. I’ve always done what I’ve said I am going to do. I enjoy ticking things off my to do list. But when the reward is a long way…
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How The Need to Know Is Blocking Your Growth
Do You Have the “Need To Know” Itis? I call the act of blocking forward movement with too many questions the “Need to Know” Itis. Let’s take a look at this Buddhist story to see what I mean. The Poisoned Arrow A man is wounded by a poisoned arrow. His family calls for a doctor,…
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Are You Standing In The Way of Your Healing?
Are You Standing in the Way of Your Healing? I’ve spent my career helping people who are “hard-to-help.” Are you one of them? Are you standing in the way of your healing? You Are In Charge of Holding On and Letting Go Every healer can only offer remedies. The healing part is up to you.…
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Best Post-Thanksgiving Hack to Get You Back on Track
Best Post-Thanksgiving Hack to Get You Back on Track If you’re like me, your routine is blown! You’ve eaten too much, been over-scheduled, and are behind on maintenance tasks like cleaning and exercise. While it may have been a great time, you really just need a post-Thankgiving hack to get you back on track. Voila!…
