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Why “Compromise” Is a Bad Word
Avoid this like the plague! Why “Compromise” Is a Bad Word If you grew up like me, you were taught to compromise. This is a horrible idea! Let me tell you why! Compromise Is a Lose/Lose The word “compromise” is a verb that means to arrive at a settlement by each side making concessions. That’s…
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Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations
Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations Lots of coaches will tell you to dream big and “Go big, or go home.” While optimism is a great practice that helps people achieve and live more satisfying lives, nothing kills happiness faster than unrealistic expectations. What’s the difference between optimism and unrealistic expectations? Optimism is a generally positive…
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Are You Sexually Harassing Someone? Here’s 11 Signs
Are You Sexually Harassing Someone? I recently read an article where Quentin Tarrantino lamented not taking the sexual harassment allegations against collaborator, Harvey Weinstein, more seriously. Tarrantino basically said that he knew, but didn’t want to deal with it because it was low level stuff (my interpretation). This tells me that we still don’t know…
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When Your Relationship Doesn’t Nurture You
Is It Time to Go? Everyone wants a partner who is attentive, gets them, inspires them to be the best version of themselves, and inspires them to grow. We want to see the vision of ourselves that is reflected back to us in their eyes as someone who is lovely. But what do you do…
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Are You Creeping People Out? (And How to Stop)
Nobody Wants to Be Creepy Nobody wants to be creepy, but what do you do when you overhear someone’s comment about a creep, and it turns out they are talking about you! How do you know if you are creeping people out? How do you stop? What Makes a Person Creepy There isn’t a definitive…
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How To Let Go of a Relationship You Still Want
When The Love Lives Longer Than the Relationship It happens. The love outlasts the relationship sometimes. Someone transfers with their job. Someone doesn’t feel the same as the other. Or maybe college ends and one person is returning home. Sometimes there are deal breakers that make a long term match untenable. Maybe there is a…
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Are You Seeing Your Parents Realistically?
Growing Up Means Realizing Your Parents Are Flawed When working with people to help them let go of childhood issues, it is common to get new insight that changes the way we see our parents. We have to incorporate this new information in order to move forward. When that proves challenging, it can be a…
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Want to Be Amazing? Upgrade Your Circle!
We’re all mirrors for each other What Are Your Peeps Doing? Motivational speaker, Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” So, what are your peeps doing? Escaping from life? Grinding through life? Sleeping? Or living in an inspired, involved, connected way? What they are doing,…
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“It Wasn’t Me!” How Defensiveness is Not Attractive
It’s Time to Upgrade Your Definition of Sexy When we’re twenty-one, the only criterion that most of us have for defining whether someone is attractive or not is looks. It’s an “If the exterior looks good, I want it” type of attitude. However, once you get burned by that a time or two, it’s time…
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How to Tell if You Have a Savior Complex
Helping others is a good thing. Volunteering, taking a stand against oppression of all sorts, and being a good citizen benefits everyone. So where is the line between simply being a good person and having a savior complex? What Is a Savior Complex? A savior complex is a compulsion to seek out people who you…
