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People Pleasing: Why We Do It and How to Stop
“I Just Want to Be Nice” Many people pleasers think that they do what they do because they want to be nice. They think they are helping. People please is a trauma response. It’s called fawning. We do it to stay safe, avoid criticism, fit in, and feel good about ourselves. It’s a way to
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How to Stop Objectifying People
Why Objectifying People is a Problem Objectification in western society is so common that we don’t even respond to it. It’s an accepted norm. We talk about celebrities as if they aren’t real people with real feelings. We post photos of strangers in Walmart with captions so others can laugh at them. Young, scantily clad
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Why Stonewalling is a Powerful Relationship Killer
What’s Stonewalling? Are You Doing It? Stonewalling is an unhealthy response to conflict. Lots of people who don’t know how to resolve conflict in a healthy way, advocate for themselves, or manage their emotions do it to stay safe from overwhelming emotions. They take on the posture of a stone wall. They are immovable. Perhaps
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Tired? Unsatisfied? Need Juice? Let Go of Your Idealized Self
Are you over-scheduled, tired, have too much stuff, not enough time, don’t like your life, and desperately want to check out to get some “me time?” Maybe it’s because you are pursuing your idealized self. Who Do You Think You Should Be? We all have dreams of what we want to be, and often that
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Spruce Up Your Mental Clutter And Feel Better
Can’t Think Straight? “Clutter” is a disorderly heap or a state of confusion. “Mental clutter” is a mind that is littered with disorder and confusion. How does one clean it up? Boundaries Don’t let worrisome thoughts or gossip in. Talk It Out Getting your thoughts out can help you reach conclusions so you move thoughts
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Four Highly Effective Habits of People Who Don’t Worry
Worry is a Choice Worry negatively impacts life. It can disrupt sleep, cause headaches, lead to muscle tension, nausea, irritability, difficulty concentrating and making decisions. Since worry is a choice, perhaps it’s time to let it go. Habits of People Who Don’t Worry While everyone worries sometimes, those who only do it for the most
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What Does Being Too Available Say About You
Are You “too available?” What Message Are You Sending By Being Too Available? Believe it or not, being too available can work against you. Here’s what messages you could be sending. I have no life People with interesting lives are far more attractive than those with nothing going on. If you are always available, you
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Why Running From Sadness Won’t Make You Happy
Could You Be Running From Sadness? Do you drink too much? Are you addicted to drama? Are you perpetually over-scheduled? Is a vacation always around the corner? Do you shop too much? Why Denying Sadness Doesn’t Create Happiness When we’re happy, we’re light. Things are easier. Life flows. Everyone wants to feel that, so it’s
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Are You Living Life to the Fullest?
“Life’s a Daring Adventure or Nothing,” Right? I think most of us want to have a life we can look back on with satisfaction. We want to feel that we have been here and made a difference, right? And yet how many of us don’t follow Helen Keller’s idea of a daring adventure. We fall
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When You Don’t Believe You Can Have What You Want
Are You Blocking Your Blessing? I have worked with a lot of people who say no to what they want before it’s even a possibility by not believing they can have it. They have lots of reasonable explanations why things are out of reach, like: I’m too old/too young. I don’t have the right qualifications.I’m not