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Why Stonewalling is a Powerful Relationship Killer
What’s Stonewalling? Are You Doing It? Stonewalling is an unhealthy response to conflict. Lots of people who don’t know how to resolve conflict in a healthy way, advocate for themselves, or manage their emotions do it to stay safe from overwhelming emotions. They take on the posture of a stone wall. They are immovable. Perhaps
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What Does Being Too Available Say About You
Are You “too available?” What Message Are You Sending By Being Too Available? Believe it or not, being too available can work against you. Here’s what messages you could be sending. I have no life People with interesting lives are far more attractive than those with nothing going on. If you are always available, you
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What You Didn’t Know About Yelling But Should
“But he only listens when I yell” This is what I hear from all my clients who admit to an angry communication issue. It’s not true, and it’s not a reason to justify screaming. Yelling Inhibits Trust and Understanding Yelling is a power play to state “I am mightier than you.” It’s a way of
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Am I Too Critical?
10 Signs That You’re Too Critical Relationship expert, John Gottman, identifies criticism as one of the things that cause relationships to fail. I once knew someone who complained, criticized, and highlighted the negativity in every situation. Whew! What a downer! Although she had some lovely qualities, they weren’t enough to overcome her negativity, and I
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How Am I Limiting Love?
If you aren’t in a happy relationship, and want to be, the answer is yes! Are You Holding Yourself Back From Love? Read on, and I will share the most common unconscious beliefs that limit love. But before we begin, let’s talk about limiting beliefs. What Are Limiting Beliefs? Limiting beliefs are also called maladaptive
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Why External Validation Is Never Enough
Remember this? Do You Like Me? Yes or No Remember when we were little kids and someone would slip you a note in school that read, “Do you like me?” and there would be a box to check yes or no? It was innocent and cute to get that kind of approval back then, but
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How to Let Go of “I’m Okay if You’re Okay”
Let that go! It’s Exhausting to Get Your Inner Calm From Other People Imagine that you are on a new mom with a baby. Whenever the baby cries, you get anxious. You do everything you can to calm the baby, and can’t relax until the baby is fine. Sometimes you know exactly what the baby
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Stop Trying to Change People Who Don’t Want to Change
How Do You Deal With People Who Don’t Want to Change? You may not be able to change other people, but you do have power to make this situation better! As With All Things, The Solution Lies With Yourself It is frustrating to see someone else struggle, do the wrong things, or just be incorrect,
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What’s the Difference Between Reciprocal and Transactional Relationships?
Let Go of Unsatisfying Relationships What’s the difference between a transactional relationship and a reciprocal one? In both, the participants give something to each other. The two major differences are relationship and intent. In a transactional relationship, the relationship is focused on, and largely limited to, the transaction. There is no relationship beyond the exchange
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How to Stop Listening to Gossip
Stop Listening to Gossip! Gossiping is one of the most destructive forms of speech. It ruins trust and relationships. It’s a waste of time. And it often leaves you in a negative and critical mood. But how do you stop listening to gossip without appearing rude or hurting the speaker’s feelings? It Takes Two to